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Since When Did My Busy Work Become Actual Work?

I noticed today that my schedule is becoming busier and busier. No longer allowing anytime for busy work moments in my life. Isn’t that a good thing? Well after giving it some thought I’ve decided that every person needs a good amount of busy work in their professional life to give them a break from the mentally tedious work they do the rest of the day. You may be wondering ‘What is busy work?’…..well busy work for me is neatly organizing files, cleaning out my email, marking off my daily planner, and making non-immediate notes for meetings later in the week. Everything I consider busy work does need to be completed, but it’s not an urgent task.

I find myself recently throwing the busy work onto the urgent task load and wonder how I let that happen. It all goes back to my blog yesterday about knowing things about yourself that aren’t going to change. I’m a pleaser, a giver, a ‘yes’ person. So I willingly volunteer for every community event I can get my hands on, say yes to meetings without enough time to give myself a ‘breather’, and no matter how much I know I need to stop saying ‘yes’ to everyone…somehow saying ‘no’ doesn’t sound right either.  I think this is the source for the lack of busy work time in my life.

I was having a skype conversation today with a friend who I often blow off steam to and unload all my problems. By the way I’m super thankful to that friend for listening to me no matter how annoying and random my thoughts sound. So my skype friend tells me that I need to teach people how to communicate with me. Well first of all I didn’t follow the other females in my family and become a teacher because I’m not very good at it or at least I don’t think I am. So I’m stuck here agreeing with my friend but have no earthly idea how to change my DNA.

I’m trying to practice a few lines to see how it sounds. Instead of saying no I’m trying to say ‘I can’t right now, but I’ll be happy to schedule that for….or…. I’m really booked up and I’d love to help you how about if we move it to…..’ these are actually helping me. I’ve used them a few times today and feel quite proud of myself. In the marketing world I’m surrounded by events I want to appear at, people I want to work with and charities I want to help. But if I’ve learned anything from this world of marketing its that I can’t do it all. I can’t say yes to it all. So my fellow bloggers tell me how you say no, tell me how you balance.

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